Ha, I think the secret is that nearly everyone in fandom is full of anxiety and assuming the rest of fandom are too good to talk to and we'd best not bother them. :p The people with actual confidence are out like, networking and learning corporate management, or strting up a new small business, or other stuff that confident people do? I dunno, that is a magical world of legend to me.
But yeah, if you hadn't caught me in an upswing, if I'd been more depressed when you talked to me, I might have come across as aloof and indifferent to you, but really it would be me staring at your posts going, "I want to say something back, but words. Words are hard. I'll say the wrong thing. I don't have the energy. Bluh."
So um. Fair warning, that happens sometimes. I go quiet and it's because of a misbehaving brain, not a sudden disinterest. I'll try to give you a heads up if I'm getting too downswing to chat, I'm getting better about noticing it happening and saying things. Turns out communicating your emotions is a learnable skill?
Ugh, politics... I can't even pay too close attention to what's happening except through comedy news (like Colbert) or my brain starts shutting down in frustrated exhaustion.
I'm glad our interactions are so positive for your end, too, so far! :3 Friend #1 okayed you already btw. I think he figures "any friend of Scott's should be fine". Friend #2 seems to not have picked up on the implied question in "I mentioned the possibility of inviting my new friend to the discord, but also said my existing friends would have to vet her first", so I'm going to have to ask her more directly. Actually, lemme just do that now, she's on. ...and she's say's it's fine. I should probably send you the link privately though. :p
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Re: A bit scattered on this one
Date: 2017-09-24 03:01 am (UTC)The people with actual confidence are out like, networking and learning corporate management, or strting up a new small business, or other stuff that confident people do? I dunno, that is a magical world of legend to me.
But yeah, if you hadn't caught me in an upswing, if I'd been more depressed when you talked to me, I might have come across as aloof and indifferent to you, but really it would be me staring at your posts going, "I want to say something back, but words. Words are hard. I'll say the wrong thing. I don't have the energy. Bluh."
So um. Fair warning, that happens sometimes. I go quiet and it's because of a misbehaving brain, not a sudden disinterest. I'll try to give you a heads up if I'm getting too downswing to chat, I'm getting better about noticing it happening and saying things. Turns out communicating your emotions is a learnable skill?
Ugh, politics... I can't even pay too close attention to what's happening except through comedy news (like Colbert) or my brain starts shutting down in frustrated exhaustion.
I'm glad our interactions are so positive for your end, too, so far! :3
Friend #1 okayed you already btw. I think he figures "any friend of Scott's should be fine". Friend #2 seems to not have picked up on the implied question in "I mentioned the possibility of inviting my new friend to the discord, but also said my existing friends would have to vet her first", so I'm going to have to ask her more directly.
Actually, lemme just do that now, she's on.
...and she's say's it's fine.
I should probably send you the link privately though. :p